Lesson 30 of 30: The Six Reasons Even Effective Tools Won’t Work   Congratulations! You made it to the last day of the Challenge–Day 30! The tools you’ve learned in this series have been used by thousands of parents, recommended by professionals, and have several decades of research showing their long-term effectiveness. Since this is the shortest, quickest program that teaches the Universal Blueprint® problem-solving system, you might not see the same results as those who have read The Parent’s Toolshop® book or taken a comprehensive program with a certified Parents Toolshop®... (Read More ...)

Remember to Go to the Progress Journal Forum!   Welcome back! It’s Day 29 of the 30-Day Challenge — just one more lesson after this! You’ve now finished learning the core tools in the Misbehavior and Discipline Toolsets   Lessons 25-28 gave you more details about how to answer the last two Problem Identification Questions: A. 3 Problem Identification Questions: Is it a Child or Parent problem? If there’s Problem behavior, is it Unintentional or On purpose? If the Problem behavior is On purpose, what’s the purpose?   When responding to misbehavior, you learned... (Read More ...)

Lesson 28 of 30: The Myths of Timeouts and Why They Aren’t Even a Discipline Tool   Welcome back!   Did you notice the last article didn’t mention two tools parents commonly use to discipline?   One was spanking, because spanking does not fit the 4 R’s — and can never fit the 4 R’s, because hitting others is disrespectful. It is a form of “corporal punishment,” not an “effective discipline” tool, so it didn’t meet the criteria for being included. While spanking can get children to obey out of fear, countless studies have shown there are many possible negative... (Read More ...)

Lesson 27 of 30: How to Have Self-Disciplined Children Without Being the Bad Guy   Welcome to Day 27! How’d you like to have children that are self-disciplined? It sure would make life easier, right? Today’s lesson covers just that topic. First, let’s review where we are in the Universal Blueprint® Problem-Solving System / PASRR Formula.   You’ve already learned how to: Prevent Problems from starting or worsening, with the Prevention Toolbox. Acknowledge the child’s feelings, with the Child Problem Toolbox: F-A-X Listening Toolset Set limits and express concerns,... (Read More ...)

Lesson 26 of 30: Why Kids Misbehave and How to Prevent and Stop It   Welcome to Day 26! You’re in the home stretch to Day 30!   Here’s where we are in the Universal Blueprint® Problem-Solving System / PASRR Formula: You’ve already learned how to: Prevent Problems from starting or worsening, with the Prevention Toolbox. Acknowledge the child’s feelings, with the Child Problem Toolbox:. Set limits and express concerns, with the Parent Problem Toolbox. Now you are ready to learn how to: Redirect misbehavior, with the PO Toolset   Today’s lesson focuses on intentional... (Read More ...)

Lesson 25 of 30: Just Because You’ve Told Them a Million Times, It Doesn’t Mean They Know Better   Welcome to Day 25! Once again, let’s review the first three steps of the PASRR formula:   Preventing problems from starting or worsening, using the Prevention Toolbox. Acknowledge the child’s feelings, using the Child Problem Toolbox. Set limits and/or express concerns, using the Parent Problem Toolbox: Keep Your Cool and Clear Communication Toolsets. Now you are ready to learn how to respond to misbehavior by taking the next step: Redirect misbehavior.   If... (Read More ...)

Remember to Go to the Progress Journal Forum! Welcome back! It’s Day 24 of the 30-Day Challenge: You’ve now finished learning the core tools in the Child and Parent Problem Toolboxes   Lessons 19-23 gave you more details about how to answer the first Problem Identification Question: Is it a Child or Parent problem? When responding to Child problems, you learned how to use the tools in the second step of the PASRR Formula: Acknowledge the child’s feelings” and use F-A-X Listening to respond to “Child problems,” Focus on feelings Ask helpful questions X-amine possible solutions   When... (Read More ...)

Lesson 23: Ten Tactful Talking Tools to Get Your Point Across Without Lectures or Threats   Welcome to Day 23! Let’s quickly review what you learned about the first two steps of the PASRR formula: Here’s where we are in the Universal Blueprint® Problem-Solving System / PASRR Formula: You’ve already learned how to: Prevent Problems from starting or worsening, with the Prevention Toolbox: Cooperation ToolsetAcknowledge the child’s feelings, with the Child Problem Toolbox: F-A-X Listening ToolsetNow you are ready to learn how to:Set limits and express concerns, with the Parent Problem... (Read More ...)

Lesson 22: How to Keep Your Cool and Keep Kids from Erupting Welcome to Day 22! Here’s where we are in the Universal Blueprint® Problem-Solving System / PASRR Formula: You’ve already learned how to: Prevent Problems from starting or worsening, with the Prevention Toolbox: Cooperation ToolsetAcknowledge the child’s feelings, with the Child Problem Toolbox: F-A-X Listening ToolsetNow you are ready to learn how to:Set limits and express concerns, with the Parent Problem Toolbox:Keep Your Cool Toolset RECAP: So far, in the 30-day Challenge you’ve learned how to take the first two steps in... (Read More ...)

  Lesson 21: Impulsive Kids? How to Teach Children Responsible Decision-Making Welcome to Day 21! Where we are in the Universal Blueprint® Problem-Solving System / PASRR Formula:Prevent Problems from starting or worsening, with the Prevention Toolbox.Acknowledge the child’s feelings, with the …Child Problem Toolbox: F-A-X Listening Toolset Today’s lesson picks up where yesterday’s left off. When children are upset or have a problem, you want to use F-A-X Listening. In the last lesson, you learned the first two steps: Focus on feelings instead of facts, by naming the child’s... (Read More ...)