Chapter 14: Practice Offering Choices
In chapter 13, you learned one of the most powerful (and empowering) five-star tools, which you can use from prevention, through redirecting misbehavior, to discipline:
- Offer Choices Within Bottom Line Limits
This tool, when you use them as a part of your daily parenting, can prevent and stop many types of misbehavior and problems.
If you want to watch a short video clip on choices from my introductory workshop. Then practice offering choices within bottom line limits in situations that typically lead to power struggles in your home.
Report your experience in the forum or hop onto a Gold call for support in honing this skill.
Now, in this 30 Day course, you have only received four lessons related to the Cooperation Toolset — but they are the most important and valuable tools in that toolset. By learning and using all 15 tools in the Cooperation Toolset, you will:
- Get into fewer power struggles, so everyday life becomes easier and more enjoyable.
- Find win/win solutions both you and your child feel good about. Because no one feels like they “lost,” there’s no pouting, whining, complaining, sabotaging or getting revenge later!
- Have children who know how to identify priorities, what’s really important to them.
- Have children who know how to resolve conflicts with others — on their own.
- Throw away your stickers and gold stars, because your children are self-motivated.
- Have children who understand the value behind your rules, so they voluntarily follow them, even when no one is looking, there’s no reward, and no threat of punishment.
- Have children who develop healthy habits that last a lifetime — by the teen years they are cleaning their rooms without being asked and doing a good job of it!
- Have children who do what you want them to — the first time you ask — or sometimes without being asked!
- Have children who behave well in public, in special situations and test limits less.
Have children who have a good sense of right and wrong.
- Have children who are less impulsive and think before they act.
- Have children who respect others, but don’t blindly obey just anyone in authority, which risks their safety.
- Have the best chance of avoiding the “Terrible Twos” and “No” phases.
- Know how to reduce or avoid temper tantrums and whining. You’ll keep or regain your sanity!
- Reduce or avoid arguments and ridiculously lengthy negotiations. You’ll reach agreements quickly and everyone will be happy with the agreement.
- Find fun creative ways for children to do tasks.
- Have children (even teens) who are so polite and respectful, even strangers comment on their good behavior.
- Be more positive, flexible, and relaxed, so there will be fewer conflicts.
- Have children who are rarely, if ever, rebellious.
- Not feel your authority is being threatened when children disagree or have differing opinions.
- Be less worried about being right or wrong.
- Get more teamwork and cooperation from your children and parenting partners.
- Have children who become adults who are leaders instead of followers.
- Take today to focus on practicing using Choices Within Bottom Line Limits before you learn the remaining tools in the Prevention Toolbox.
- You are welcome to add your questions or share how using Choices is going for you in the comment section below, especially if you want or need any support putting these tools into action.