Chapter 22: Practice Keeping Your Cool & Assertively Communicating
The last two lessons were jam packed with tools that can improve every area of your life — and they are just the tip of the iceberg. So I want you to have time to digest and process what you learned — and practice the skills in a focused way for at least one day.
Take an event that has happened in the past you don’t want to react to in anger if it happens again.
- Describe the event. What happened?
- What do I believe about this event? When the event happened, what did I tell myself?
- How do I feel?
- What was my response?
Now reprogram your trigger button about this event by answering these questions:
- Am I being objective? Look at the description above. Change biased comments into factual, objective terms.
- Are my beliefs healthy? Look at each belief listed above. Rewrite unhealthy beliefs using helpful, positive words.
- Now, how do I feel after looking at the situation with healthier beliefs and thoughts?
- How can I respond in a helpful, healthy, rational, and positive way? Use the Clear Communication Tools to plan this response.
If you would like more information about the topics in the Parent Problems Toolset, check out these links:
- Get the session from the Lunch & Learn audio series called, Tame the Fire of Anger & Stress — Before You Get Burned. It includes suggestions for achieving all the following goals:
- Reduce Your Daily Stress
- Make Individualized Anger & Stress Management Plans for You and Your Children.
- Slice Sass and Back-Talk From Your Child’s Vocabulary.
You are welcome to add your comments below, especially if you want or need any support putting these tools into action.