The last two lessons were jam packed with tools that can improve every area of your life — and they are just the tip of the iceberg. So I want you to have time to digest and process what you learned — and practice the skills in a focused way for at least one day.


Take an event that has happened in the past you don’t want to react to in anger if it happens again.

  • Describe the event. What happened?
  • What do I believe about this event? When the event happened, what did I tell myself?
  • How do I feel?
  • What was my response?

Now reprogram your trigger button about this event by answering these questions:

  • Am I being objective? Look at the description above. Change biased comments into factual, objective terms.
  • Are my beliefs healthy? Look at each belief listed above. Rewrite unhealthy beliefs using helpful, positive words.
  • Now, how do I feel after looking at the situation with healthier beliefs and thoughts?
  • How can I respond in a helpful, healthy, rational, and positive way? Use the Clear Communication Tools to plan this response.

If you would like more information about the topics in the Parent Problems Toolset, check out these links:

You are welcome to add your comments below, especially if you want or need any support putting these tools into action.