Table of Contents

 

THE PARENT’S TOOLSHOP:

The Universal Blueprint for Building a Healthy Family

 

 

Table of Contents

 

 

Acknowledgments

Introducing Your Toolshop Tour Guide

Chapter 1: Touring The Parent’s Toolshop (Another Parenting Book? • What The Parent’s Toolshop Does    •   Suggestions for Use)

 

STEP A: PREVENTION TOOLBOX

 

Chapter 2: Foundation-Building Toolset

• Establishing a Common Language • What Are Our Parenting Goals?
• Parenting Styles:
• Over-controlling
• Under-controlling
• Balanced
• Parenting as a Team • Attitude Adjustment Tools • Practice • Detailed Answers

 

Chapter 3: The Universal Blueprint

• Balancing Logic and Emotion • ABC-123-D Steps • Types of Problems
• Identifying Problem Types
• Tips for Tots to Teens • Nobody Said Parenting Was Easy • Practice • Detailed Answers

 

Chapter 4: Self-Esteem Toolset

• What Is Self-Esteem? • Encouragement Versus Praise
• Self-Esteem Tools (1)
• Self-Esteem Tools (2)
• Is Praise Ever Okay? • Encourage Yourself • The Language of Encouragement • Practice • Possible Answers

 

Chapter 5: Cooperation Toolset

• The Difference Between Cooperation and Obedience
• Cooperation Tools (1)
• Cooperation Tools (2)
• Practice • Possible Answers

 

Chapter 6: Independence Toolset

• The Balance of Independence • Developing Responsibility
• Independence Tools (1)
• Independence Tools (2)
• Tips for Tots to Teens • Practice • Possible Answers

 

STEP B: CHILD PROBLEM TOOLBOX

Taking over Child Problems

 

Chapter 7: F-A-X Listening Toolset

• Peeling Onions • Fax Communication • Problem-Solving Styles • Communication Barriers 
• F-A-X Listening • Step B1: Focus on Feelings 
• Tips for Tots and Teens • Practice • Possible Answers

 

Chapter 8: Problem-Solving Toolset

• Step B2: Ask Helpful Questions • Step B3: X-amine Possible Solutions • When to Move from Step to Step • Variations of Problem Solving • Problem-Solving Worksheet

• Common Child Problems (1: Emotions, Peers/Siblings)
• Common Child Problem (2: School) 
• Practice • Possible Answers

 

STEP C: PARENT PROBLEM TOOLBOX

Where We Are in the Universal Blueprint

 

Chapter 9: Keep Your Cool Toolset

• What Is Anger?
• Steps of Constructive Anger/Stress Management • Resistance to Change 
• Dealing with Others’ Anger and Stress • Use an Anger Log

 

Chapter 10: Clear Communication Toolset

• Styles of Communication • Nonverbal Communication 
• Clear Communication Tools 
• Tips for Tots and Teens • Practice • Possible Answers

 

Chapter 11: PU Toolset (Unintentional Misbehavior)

• Identifying PU Problems (1: Development, Temperament) 
• Identifying PU Problems (2: Medical) • Using the Universal Blueprint to Redirect PU Behavior 
• Common PU Behaviors 
• Practice • Detailed Answers

 

Chapter 12: PO Toolset (“On Purpose” Misbehavior)

• Identifying PO Problems 
• The Four Types of PO Behavior • The Importance of the Universal Blueprint • PO Tools 
• Important Points to Remember • PO Combination Problems • The Goals of Adult Misbehavior • Lying 
• Practice • Detailed Answers

 

Chapter 13: Discipline Toolset

• The Difference Between Punishment and Discipline
• Discipline Tools
• Self-Control Timeouts (are not a discipline tool!)
• Parent’s Decision-Making Worksheet • Practice • Detailed Answers

 

STEP D: MAINTENANCE TOOLBOX

 

Chapter 14: Family Council Toolset

• The Purpose of Family Councils • The Benefits of Family Councils • Family Council Roles • Format Options
• Getting Started—The First Few Meetings • Family Councils Use All the Tools • Family Council Trouble-Shooting Guide
• Agenda/Activity Ideas • Practice • Detailed Answers

 

Chapter 15: Three C’s: Consistency, Criticism, Confidence

• Increasing Consistency
• Handling Criticism and Unhelpful Advice • Practice • Possible Answers
• Maintaining Your Confidence • Closing

 

APPENDIX

Glossary of Terms

Index

One-Page House Key

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