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Chapter 30: What if I’m Not Getting Results?

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  The Parent’s Toolshop® Guidebook: 5 Easy Steps to Effectively Respond to Any Parenting Challenge The Maintenance Toolbox   The tools you’ve learned in this series have been used by thousands of parents, recommended by professionals, and have several decades of research showing their long-term effectiveness. Since this is the shortest, quickest program that teaches the Universal Blueprint® problem-solving system, you might not see the same results as those who have read The Parent’s Toolshop® book or taken a comprehensive T.I.P.S. program with a certified Parents Toolshop®... (Read More ...)

Chapter 29: Recap of The Discipline Toolset

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Chapters 27-28 gave you the tools to use in the last step of the PASRR Formula: Reveal discipline. When you master using those tools, you will: Have children who take the initiative to fix their mistakes. In fact, children will have often already taken care of a problem before you even know there is one — now that’s self-discipline! Have children who admit they are wrong and seek out ways to make things right.  Have children who have a sense of fairness and impose discipline or restrictions on themselves.  Avoid accidentally escalating a situation by disciplining too soon or too harshly.  Avoid... (Read More ...)

Chapter 28: The Myths of Timeouts and Why They Aren’t Even a Discipline Tool

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Did you notice the last chapter didn’t mention two tools parents commonly use to discipline? One was spanking, because spanking does not fit the 4 R’s — and can never fit the 4 R’s, because hitting others is disrespectful. It is a form of “corporal punishment,” not an “effective discipline” tool, so it didn’t meet the criteria for being included. While spanking can get children to obey out of fear, countless studies have shown there are many possible negative long-term effects. Since you have dozens of other tools for preventing the need for discipline and for disciplining effectively,... (Read More ...)

Chapter 27: How to Have Self-Disciplined Children Without Being the Bad Guy!

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How’d you like to have children that are self-disciplined? It sure would make life easier, right? Chapter 27 covers just that topic. First, let’s review where we are in the Universal Blueprint® Problem-Solving System / PASRR Formula. You’ve already learned how to: Prevent Problems from starting or worsening, with the Prevention Toolbox. Acknowledge the child’s feelings, with the Child Problem Toolbox: F-A-X Listening Toolset Set limits and express concerns, with the Parent Problem Toolbox Redirect misbehavior, with the PU or PO Toolset Now you are ready to learn how to respond... (Read More ...)

Chapter 26: Practice Redirecting Misbehavior

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The last two chapters were jam packed with some of the most important information in this entire guidebook. So I want you to have time to digest and process it — and practice the skills. As I said in the last chapter, Redirecting misbehavior is quite possibly the most important step of the PASRR formula and the one most parents skip. In fact, if you skip this step it almost doesn’t matter what discipline you use, it will either not get results or get turned into punishment (I’ll explain why in the next chapter.) So it’s important to really grasp this lesson. So take an extra day to... (Read More ...)

Chapter 25: Why Kids Misbehave and How to Prevent and Stop It!

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Welcome to Chapter 25! Here’s where we are in the Universal Blueprint® Problem-Solving System / PASRR Formula: If you’ve read the Prevention Toolbox, Child Problem Toolbox and Parent Problems Toolbox chapters of the Parents Toolshop® Guidebook, you’ve already learned how to: Prevent Problems from starting or worsening, with the Prevention Toolbox. Acknowledge the child’s feelings, with the Child Problem Toolbox:. Set limits and express concerns, with the Parent Problem Toolbox. In the Misbehavior Toolbox chapters you will learn how to: Redirect misbehavior, with the PO Toolset Today’s... (Read More ...)

Chapter 24: Just Because You’ve Told Them A Million Times, It Doesn’t Mean They Know Better

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The Parents Toolshop® Guidebook: 5 Easy Steps To Effectively Respond to Any Parenting Challenge The Misbehavior Toolbox The PU Toolset Chapter 24: Just Because You’ve Told Them A Million Times, It Doesn’t Mean They Know Better The PO Toolset Chapter 25: Why Kids Misbehave and How to Prevent and Stop It Chapter 26: Practice Redircting Misbehavior  The Discipline Toolset Chapter 27: How to Have Self-Disciplined Children Without Being the Bad Guy Chapter 28: The Myths of Timeouts and Why They Aren’t Even a Discipline Tool   The Prevention Toolbox, Child Problems Toolbox, and Parent... (Read More ...)

Chapter 23: Recap of The Child Problems and Parent Problems Toolboxes

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You’ve now finished learning the core tools in the Child and Parent Problem Toolboxes  Lessons 18-21 gave you more details about how to answer the first Problem Identification Question: Is it a Child or Parent problem? When responding to Child problems, you learned how to use the tools in the second step of the PASRR Formula: Acknowledge the child’s feelings” and use F-A-X Listening to respond to “Child problems,” Focus on feelings Ask helpful questions X-amine possible solutions  When responding to Parent problems, you learned how to Keep Your Cool and take the third step of the... (Read More ...)

Chapter 22: Practice Keeping Your Cool & Assertively Communicating

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The last two lessons were jam packed with tools that can improve every area of your life — and they are just the tip of the iceberg. So I want you to have time to digest and process what you learned — and practice the skills in a focused way for at least one day. ACTION STEPS: Take an event that has happened in the past you don’t want to react to in anger if it happens again. Describe the event. What happened? What do I believe about this event? When the event happened, what did I tell myself? How do I feel? What was my response? Now reprogram your trigger button about this... (Read More ...)

Chapter 21: Ten Tactful Talking Tools to Get Your Point Across Without Lectures or Threats?

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Welcome to chapter 21! Here’s where we are in the Universal Blueprint® Problem-Solving System / PASRR Formula: If you read The Prevention Toolbox and Child Problems Toolbox chapters of the Parents Toolshop® Guidebook,  you’ve already learned how to: Prevent Problems from starting or worsening, with the Prevention Toolbox: Cooperation Toolset Acknowledge the child’s feelings, with the Child Problem Toolbox: F-A-X Listening Toolset in the Parent Problems toolset you will to learn how to: Set limits and express concerns, with the Parent Problem Toolbox: Clear Communication Toolset  Remember... (Read More ...)