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Chapter 10: Why Do Your Kids Do What You Just Told Them Not To Do?

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Here’s where we are in the Universal Blueprint® Problem-Solving System / PASRR Formula: Prevent Problems from starting or worsening … with the         Prevention Toolbox: Cooperation Toolset The Cooperation Toolset has 15 practical tools for getting children to cooperate without bribes, rewards, incentives, power struggles or defiance. It also is the only toolset with two five-star tools. Here is the first one. You and just about every other parent has probably experienced this: You tell your child, “Don’t run, you might fall.” He/She proceeds to run…and, of course, falls. Then... (Read More ...)

Chapter 9: Practice D.I.P.

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In the past two chapters, you learned a very powerful five-star tool:    D.I.P.: Descriptive encouragement that develops Internal qualities that build self-esteem, by focusing on the Positive. This tool, when you use it as a part of your daily parenting, can prevent discouragement, which is the root cause of all misbehavior. So I want you to take today to just practice using this tool before you learn the remaining five-star tools in the Prevention Toolbox. It’s always best to practice live — and you can actually practice using this tool in any relationship! So if you don’t happen... (Read More ...)

Chapter 8: Do Rewards and Bribes Really Motivate Children?

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Before you get into the heart of today’s lesson, see how you did on yesterday’s Action Step of changing praise into encouragement. If you got stuck on any of them, here are some suggested answers: “I bet you’re proud of yourself!” “Wow! Look at your hair! You … (describe.) Did you do that yourself? That must have taken some fancy finger work!” “Your room sure looks clean! I see you … (describe). You really worked on that for a long time. That took persistence.” “You worked and worked and never gave up. Look at how far you came!” Comparisons promote resentment... (Read More ...)

Chapter 7: Do You Know How To Build Your Child’s Self-Esteem Without Creating a Praise Junkie?

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Welcome to the Prevention Quick Guide of the The Parent’s Toolshop® Guidebook!  Prevent Problems from starting or worsening … with the Prevention Toolbox: Self-Esteem Toolset If you are like most parents, you’d rather prevent problems than have to go around catching and fixing them.  That’s why the first step in the PASRR formula you learned in the last lesson is to “Prevent problems from starting or worsening.” There are three Toolsets in The Prevention Toolbox: Self-Esteem , Cooperation and Independence. Within each, there are dozens of techniques to help you prevent... (Read More ...)

Chapter 6: Foundation Building Toolbox Recap

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You’ve now finished learning the core tools in the Foundation-Building Toolbox: The first five chapters of the Parents Toolshop® Guide Book  helped you set a strong, stable foundation for your parenting: Establish and maintain a balanced parenting style. (Lesson 2) Have a healthy parenting mindset. (Lesson 3) Use the two parts of the Universal Blueprint® problem-solving system (Lessons 4 & 5):A.    3 Problem Identification Questions: Is it a Child or Parent problem? If there’s Problem behavior, is it Unintentional or On purpose? If the Problem behavior is On purpose, what’s the... (Read More ...)

Chapter 5: Do You Have a Parenting Plan That You Consistently Follow? (Part 2: 5 Steps)

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Do you ever wonder, “What is an Effective Response to Parenting Problems?”   There is no one universal solution to each parenting challenge, because there are different reasons a problem can start. Yesterday, the three questions you learned to ask yourself will reveal why the problem is happening.   Today, you will use the answers to these questions to point you in the direction of an effective response. At each step of that response, you can pick and choose specific tools based on the needs of the child or situation involved.   So why not just answer the questions and then use that information... (Read More ...)

Chapter 4: Do You Have a Parenting Plan That You Consistently Follow? (Part 1: 3 Questions)

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You’ve probably figured out by now that there are a gazillion problems that can pop up when you’re parenting. Isn’t it overwhelming to think that you must be prepared for any possible challenge, since you never know what kids are going to do?  Plus, the pressure increases when you realize that if you don’t handle the situation well, then it won’t get solved, will probably happen again, or could even get worse! To make matters even more confusing, when you finally feel like you’ve figured things out, your child leaps to another developmental stage. What you used to do might... (Read More ...)

Chapter 3: How Does Your Mindset Affect Your Style & Outcomes?

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In the last chapter, you learned about the 5 parenting styles and decided which style you want to be (if you are still reading, I’ll assume that’s the Balanced parenting style). Despite your best intentions, however, your mindset and belief system, which is what drives your parenting style, will determine every choice you make in parenting. So, before you dive into the plan and its tools, it’s important to first discuss the number one key that can unlock the secrets to getting the results you want — your parenting mindset. Conditioned, Reactive or Conscious Parenting — Which... (Read More ...)

Chapter 2: What’s the Best Parenting Style to Reach Your Goals?

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Now that you’ve set your parenting goals, it’s time to see whether the foundation you’ve set will, indeed, lead you in the most direct path to achieving those goals. Foundation-Building Toolbox: Parenting Styles Toolset To build a healthy family, you need a solid, stable balanced foundation on which to build. A big part of creating this foundation has to do with what you believe about parenting. Your beliefs about what parents are “supposed to” do influence the choices you make. These beliefs and the resulting things you say and do are your parenting “style.” If... (Read More ...)

Chapter 1: What is the Secret Formula for Parenting Success?

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Welcome to the Parent’s Toolshop® Guidebook! I’m glad you’re here and am excited about our journey together! I’m Jody Johnston Pawel, a Licensed Social Worker, Certified Family Life Educator, award-winning parenting author and parenting expert to the media worldwide. I’m the parent of two adult children and am a second-generation parent educator who has been training and supporting parents for over 30 years. [Check out these links, if you want to get to know me better or find out how Parent’s Toolshop® came to be]. For over 20 years, I have been sharing a unique... (Read More ...)