PUNISHING VS. DISCIPLINING CHILDREN Disciplining children is different from punishing them because it teaches children to learn from their mistakes rather than making them suffer for them. In fact, imposing suffering actually shifts the focus from the lesson that needs to be learned to who is in control. As a result, punishment focuses on the parent being responsible for controlling a child’s behavior, rather than the child controlling his/her own behavior, which is the focus of discipline. In Positive Discipline, Jane Nelsen offers guidelines for using consequences, which she calls the... (Read More ...)